Since we cannot wait for chaos to clear itself up, we must focus on the creation of peace.

Because wounding from the past or the present is so painful, we sometimes believe that something as painful as the wound is required to heal.

We are closing on the end of a very challenging year.  Many institutions we have always trusted have been under attack.  This can bring up old feelings of fear and even abandonment.  This is a time for being truly conscious about how much time and thought we are giving to things we cannot change in […]

There are so many layers connected with holidays.  It is easy to feel the demands of the past and the present.  It is a time when comparisons run amok and guilt and shame can easily raise their heads.  We can even feel bad about feeling bad about a holiday.

We have been experiencing very loud and visual tragedies recently.  It is easy to respond to these incidents by going to fear or anger within ourselves.  So often the place we need to be focusing on is the light in the situation which is neither loud nor visual in many cases.

There is a great life skill which allows you to hold a line between your deeper feelings and sensitivities and the behavior of people and situations around you.  Often the advice you hear is about numbing yourself to things that happen to you.  The real skill is establishing a line which allows you to look at the patterns that are happening around you with the understanding that you did not attract, create or become responsible for all of those patterns.

Much of what we believe about being happy is not true.  Most of what we believe about being happy is based on a system of beliefs which allow or disallow happiness.  If, for instance, we believe that happiness is only allowed under certain conditions, we are the prisoners of a false belief system.

Sometimes we treat blame like a bouncing ball.  We want to get it into someone else’s court and when we do, we feel relieved.  Unfortunately the problem from which the blame stemmed remains unsolved. 

So much of what we have been taught is about responding to the demands of other people and other situations that it is easy to forget to hold energy for yourself.

So much unhappiness is caused by the never-ending push to prove your own worth.  It is so important to be clear about who you are giving the power of approval to in your life.  Your worth lives in you and is much more effective at creating in the world when it lives in you and does not become weakened or dissipated because you have given it away.