There is an art to lightening life. Part of the practice of that art is stopping to see how much of the load we are carrying really belongs to us. There are times when we are carrying our load and someone else’s. There are times when we work harder than we need to work out of a personal demand and not the real demand in the situation. If we are accustomed to overcarrying, it may seem uncomfortable to let go of the part of the load that is not ours. We might even judge ourselves to be uncaring if we made the load adjustment. These are feelings we need to overcome in order to be free, and being free is the happiest and most potent way to live.