We live in a world where everything seems to happen at once. We have been led to believe that all our emotional responses should be singular. For instance, in a day where something sad has happened, we should only feel sad. Ironically, in any given day we probably feel in a wide range of emotional response. When we allow ourselves to give our own emotions the room that they need, we are much less likely to get caught in depression or exhilaration. We sometimes have difficulty when we have friends who are in grief. We have the idea that everything that person feels is grief. We present ourselves as fellow grievers rather than as loving friends who will support them in whatever they feel without judgment or limitation. We want to be sure that we offer this same support to ourselves. The ability to be emotionally flexible is a great gift.