As with so many things, we sometimes want to be in charge of how quickly we grow and change. While this is natural in the human condition, there are some problems with this longing. When something grows in a natural way, there is time for all the elements which are needed to maintain growth to develop. If there is an attempt to grow before the elements of growth are in place, you may have false growth which does not stay with you.
It is like watching a small child holding a big book pretending to read the stories in the book. We watch this and smile, knowing that in time, the child will actually be able to read the book. This practice is part of a growing process. If, however, we were depending on the child to truly read the directions for something we need to assemble, there would be some difficulty. We want to encourage movement toward certain skills, but we do not want to say those skills are operational when they are not.
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This can happen in life when you press yourself to master certain skills in life before the preparation for those skills is integrated in you. For instance, you might decide that you want to be a skilled ice skater, but you want to skip the lessons. You might be able to learn to skate if you are an athletic person and you are willing to fall down many times, but if you want to skate competitively, you will need good coaching. There are those who pressed to take a job and got the job, only to find that the demands of the job were too great, or to find that the job was not a match for who they are. These situations teach us the value of patience in our growth.
Patience is an active state, not a passive one. Your own wisdom will speak to you about a good movement to make toward your goals. If you can respect the step before you and take that step, then you are moving in a spiritual way, and that movement will bring you safely toward your goal.
For all of us, there are areas of denial in our lives. Sometimes the thing that prevents us from growing is that denial. This is easy to see in others, but hard to see in ourselves. You may have known someone who wants good relationships in their life, but they have not addressed their anger or their need to control. Until those issues are addressed, it is going to be difficult to create the thing you want the most. We do not need to be harsh or critical of ourselves, but we do need to have the courage to shine the light on the places we need to heal and change.
Remember, we do not need to be perfectly healed to create what we want in life, but we do need to be honest with ourselves and with those around us. This is the power that moves us toward the goals we most want to achieve.
May you be blessed in your healing and patient in your growth.