End of Year Healing

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We are closing on the end of a very challenging year.  Many institutions we have always trusted have been under attack.  This can bring up old feelings of fear and even abandonment.  This is a time for being truly conscious about how much time and thought we are giving to things we cannot change in […]

Holidays

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There are so many layers connected with holidays.  It is easy to feel the demands of the past and the present.  It is a time when comparisons run amok and guilt and shame can easily raise their heads.  We can even feel bad about feeling bad about a holiday.

 Holding For The Light

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We have been experiencing very loud and visual tragedies recently.  It is easy to respond to these incidents by going to fear or anger within ourselves.  So often the place we need to be focusing on is the light in the situation which is neither loud nor visual in many cases.

The Line Between

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There is a great life skill which allows you to hold a line between your deeper feelings and sensitivities and the behavior of people and situations around you.  Often the advice you hear is about numbing yourself to things that happen to you.  The real skill is establishing a line which allows you to look at the patterns that are happening around you with the understanding that you did not attract, create or become responsible for all of those patterns.

The Happy State

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Much of what we believe about being happy is not true.  Most of what we believe about being happy is based on a system of beliefs which allow or disallow happiness.  If, for instance, we believe that happiness is only allowed under certain conditions, we are the prisoners of a false belief system.

The Blame Game

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Sometimes we treat blame like a bouncing ball.  We want to get it into someone else’s court and when we do, we feel relieved.  Unfortunately the problem from which the blame stemmed remains unsolved. 

Stop Proving Yourself to Anyone But You

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So much unhappiness is caused by the never-ending push to prove your own worth.  It is so important to be clear about who you are giving the power of approval to in your life.  Your worth lives in you and is much more effective at creating in the world when it lives in you and does not become weakened or dissipated because you have given it away.

Guarding Your Energy

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We live in times where outrageous things are presented as reasonable and outrageous people are presented as viable.  In these circumstances we must be very conscious of how we use our energy in response to these situations.