There is a great life skill which allows you to hold a line between your deeper feelings and sensitivities and the behavior of people and situations around you.  Often the advice you hear is about numbing yourself to things that happen to you.  The real skill is establishing a line which allows you to look at the patterns that are happening around you with the understanding that you did not attract, create or become responsible for all of those patterns.

Much of what we believe about being happy is not true.  Most of what we believe about being happy is based on a system of beliefs which allow or disallow happiness.  If, for instance, we believe that happiness is only allowed under certain conditions, we are the prisoners of a false belief system.